When life feels overwhelming these 4 tips on making your life easier will help you cope as an introverted Christian woman.
Does life feel too much right now? Are you overwhelmed by all the things? All the people, all the things that you have to do, and all the places that you have to go? As an introverted Christian woman, it can be really really hard to do life and show up for your church, and family, to serve, and do all of the stuff that you have to do when life just is too much for you.
Today I want to talk about how you can make life a little bit easier for you so that you can continue to show up the way you want to. Recently, I was really having a hard time because I was worn out. I was tired and everything was too much! I didn’t want to see anybody or talk with anybody including my kids. I just wanted to go in my room, curl up on a ball, and be left alone for days and days and days.
That’s when I realized I needed to take better care of myself, I needed a break. This happens so frequently as an introvert and a highly sensitive person. Things just become too much. There’s a lot of sensory input going on out there, a lot of responsibilities that I’m doing, and I’m serving in my church.
All of those are great. But sometimes I have to stop and realize that I need to address some things so that I can avoid burnout and I can continue to serve and show up the way that I want to. Today I’m going to give you four ways that you can make your life easier as an introverted Christian woman.
Making Your Life Easier Tip #1: Know Yourself and Your Triggers
The first thing that you need to do is to know yourself and know what your triggers are. Know yourself and what introversion looks like for you. In general terms, introverts find being in large crowds, in public, and being at these big events really draining. Only you know what that looks like specific to you. You know how long you can be in an event.
You know how large of a gathering that you can be in before you need to retreat and take a break to regroup. This is what it means to know yourself, know your triggers, and know the things that are going to be most draining for you. Know what you need to do to rest and recharge. Know your limits. Know those things.
Making Your Life Easier Tip #2: Have a Plan for Those Triggers
The second thing that I want you to do is have a plan for those triggers. Once you have taken the time to really think through what the triggers are for you, next thing through what is it that triggers you to be so exhausted that you just want to avoid everybody and everything for the rest of time? What are those things? When you know what those are, you can make a plan for that.
For example, I know that, as a highly sensitive person and as an introvert, being in groups is really draining for me. I serve on a prayer team at church and it’s also really draining for me because when somebody comes for prayer, I can, as an empath, feel what they’re feeling. My heart really goes out to them. I know that this is a trigger, and so I have a plan.
One part of my plan is that I will find a spot to sit that keeps me from being around a lot of people. In a morning Sunday school class or in a group setting, I will sit in the back so that I have an easy way to get out of there.
If the emotion in the room gets to be too much or if there are just a lot of people there, I know that I can sit in the back, or I can sit in the kitchen. I can sit somewhere else and get a little bit of space so I can still engage and participate, but I can have the space that I need to process.
I also know that for me, I’m not planning to do a whole bunch of things on Sundays, because I know that I am serving and that takes a lot out of me. I know that I’m getting all my peopling done that Sunday morning and then for the rest of the day, I just need peace and quiet. So, know these things and have a plan for what you’re going to do.
Making Your Life Easier Tip #3: Your Home a Safe Haven
The third thing that you can do to make life easier for yourself is to make your home a safe haven. Funny story I always tell people that I don’t have the gift of hospitality because I don’t want you in my house. I’m not going to invite you over. It’s not because I’m mean or rude or because I hate my house, it’s because my home is my safe place.
It is, for me, where I go as an introvert. I go home to be able to rest and recharge. You need to figure out what that means for you. Your home needs to be the place that you can go to so that you can rest and recharge and rejuvenate so that you can then get back up and go and serve and show up for your life.
What do you need to do to make your home a safe haven? Do you need to create a space for yourself? Do you need to find some hobbies? Do you need to have your schedule set up so that you’re building in time where you can be alone, where you can rest and recharge?
Figure that out because you need to have a place that you can go to rest and recharge and it should be your home. Your home should be your peaceful place and if it’s not, you need to take some time and start making adjustments so that it can be that for you.
Making Your Life Easier Tip #4: Rest
The fourth thing that I want you to do to make your life easier is to rest. Learn how to rest, learn what rest is for you. A lot of people think they’re going to rest by doing this and going and doing these things. That doesn’t work for introverts.
When people think of fun, rest, and relaxation in their mind they’re off and they’re out and they’re going and doing things. They’re hanging out with other people. That ain’t it for us introverts! When we think of rest, we really just want to go sit in a corner by ourselves in the dark or with low lights and soft music and be left alone. Know that about yourself and embrace the rest.
If you need to go home from church and immediately go lay in your bed to either take a nap or just lie down for 30 minutes, do that. You have to be okay with getting the rest that you need. You need to rest so that you can work and serve.
You need to rest so that you can engage in the relationships that God has given you to nurture and grow. You have to rest. You need to get a good night’s sleep. Take a nap if you need to. Find things that you know help you relax and give you that calm in your heart and in your mind that you need as an introvert, especially when you’re busy at church and doing things all the time. You’ve got to create that for yourself.
For me, I know that Sundays are serving days for me. I do the majority of my serving on Sundays and so on Saturdays I’m really not trying to be around a bunch of people. I try to keep Saturdays as low-key as possible, just me and my family. We might go out and do something fun, but I’m trying to rest and relax because I know that I need the energy to show up and serve on Sunday.
I need that energy to engage in corporate worship, to pray with other people, and to pray for people. I need my energy to do all of those things and so I have built into my routine rest. I rest on Saturdays and I rest on Sundays so that I can continue to do the work that God has called me to do.
Final Thoughts on Making Your Life Easier
Any time that you are feeling overwhelmed or you’re questioning why is life so hard right now, I want you to stop and evaluate. Are you doing any of these things? Do you have boundaries around your time and your schedule? Do you know what your triggers are? Do you have a plan for how to address these triggers?
Do you have a nice peaceful, quiet place that you can go to that’s all yours, where you can find the rest that you need? If not, it’s going to be worse because you’ll burn yourself out. You’ll start opting out of fellowship opportunities, opting out of church, opting out of serving, and opting out of your life because you have run yourself into the ground.
All because you simply didn’t make the time and the space to take care of yourself. It is important, you have to take care of yourself. You have to make sure that you can perform at your best because you want to serve with excellence. You want to do your work as unto the Lord, and you can’t do that if you are worn out, overwhelmed, and burnt out.
So recognize when you’re about to hit that wall. Recognize the signs of life feeling like it’s too much. You need to stop and take care of yourself. When you can do that, then you can rest and God will provide those opportunities for you to rest. Then you’re ready to serve and show up for every area of your life, especially your family, in church, and with ministry. You’re ready to show up and be your best and do your best.
Are you struggling to feel like a “good Christian” because everything that you’re seeing around you doesn’t seem to fit for you? If you are an introverted or highly sensitive Christian woman, you are probably aware that church and Christianity these days have become really extroverted.
It can really make you feel like you don’t fit in like you’re doing something wrong, or like you’re failing at this whole being a Christian thing. But what if that’s not the case? What if you simply need to learn how God made you as an introverted or highly sensitive person, and then what that means for your faith, for your relationships with yourself, with God, and with your church?
If you want to learn more about that and be able to just embrace who God created you to be and connect the way you were created to connect, then I want to invite you to check out my four-week course Introverted Faith. It is a step-by-step program that’s going to help you learn how God made you because He did it on purpose.
Learn what it means to be introverted, what it means to be a highly sensitive person, and how all of that ties into your faith so that you can show up for your church, for yourself, or for your friends better. You can have a stronger connection with God all because you are embracing who you were made to be.
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Making your life easier with these 4 tips is essential as an introverted Christian woman.
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