How Mindset Coaching Helps Highly Sensitive Introverts

Highly sensitive introverts feel things very deeply which can be overwhelming during hard times. A mindset coach can help with that.

Working with a coach has many benefits for your personal growth and so many areas of your life. Over the last decade or two, I have had the opportunity to work with coaches on different things. I’ve had business coaches, homeschooling coaches, and life coaches.

I’ve had a lot of coaching and I have seen the power that having a good coach can make in your life. When you’re feeling stuck, when you are unsure of your next steps, or when you’re just really dealing with something and you’re not at the point where you need counseling, you need somebody to help you understand where you are and figure out what your next steps are.

Coaching is a great place for that. Today I want to share how working with a mindset coach, me specifically, will help you find peace, learn to manage your emotions, and control your thoughts. Especially as a highly sensitive person and an introvert.

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What is Life and Mindset Coaching?

If you are unfamiliar with coaching I want to give you an overview of what coaching is and what it’s not. Coaching helps when you are at point A and want to get to point B and you’ve tried a few things on your own but it’s not working. A coach can come in and help you identify what’s getting in your way and help you formulate an action plan to get over those obstacles.

They will help you figure out what point B is if you aren’t sure, and encourage, support, and hold you accountable on that journey. A coach will do this primarily by asking questions, listening well, and reflecting what you’re saying to help you really hear what you’re saying to yourself. Sometimes you’re unable to do that when you’re stuck in your head.

Coaching is not counseling. It’s not looking back into your past to resolve issues and heal something from your past. We might look at your past to see if there are any patterns of behavior or thoughts, but we’re not going to spend any time trying to fix anything. As a coach, I’m not trained or licensed to do any of that.

Coaching is also not mentoring. When you work with a mentor, they are going to show you how to do what they did. They’ll come alongside you and show you their path and journey to help you follow their plan. As a coach, I won’t do that. It’s not really about me and my journey. I won’t spend much telling you what to do. I am here to support you on your specific journey and whatever your specific needs are.

I hope that helps you understand more about what coaching is and what it is not because I want to share some thoughts on how working with a mindset coach can help you. Around here, we talk a lot about finding peace and learning to find calm when you’re going through something hard by working with your emotions and understanding your thoughts.

Mindset coaching is how I do that and it’s so helpful, particularly for the highly sensitive person and the introverted Christian woman. There are some unique things about having those personality types and tendencies that can be helped and supported by coaching that you may not be aware of.

Feeling overwhelmed by challenges, uncertain about your faith, and struggling to manage your emotions alone? Want to climb out of your pit of despair? It’s exhausting when every hurdle feels insurmountable and your emotions threaten to drown you. But what if you didn’t have to navigate this journey alone? Take the first step towards peace. Book your Mindset Coaching package today!

Holding Space for Highly Sensitive Introverts

The first way mindset coaching helps is because as your coach I’m here to hold space for you. To process any kind of feelings or thoughts that you’re having. I’m not here to judge you. I’m creating a safe space for you to process anything on your heart or mind.

I do that by listening to you. I’m going to listen to what you’re saying, listen to what you’re not saying, and I’m going to ask you questions. What is it that’s bothering you? What is it that you want to accomplish?

And, as you’re sharing your heart, I’m going to listen closely to reflect on what I’m hearing you say. You might say no, that’s not it. If I notice you’ve said something several times I might ask if that’s important to you. My job as a coach is to create a safe space for you to process whatever you need to.

Coaching Tools for Highly Sensitive Introverts

I also have different coaching tools. I’ve gone through lots of training in my journey as a coach. I’m always learning and continuing my education by reading new things, watching training, and learning new things about the way the mind works, about emotions, and coaching in general. All so I can bring that knowledge, expertise, and tools to my sessions with my clients.

The second way that working with a mindset coach can help you are the tools. Specifically for me and my coaching, I have created the Peace-Filled Mind Map™. This is the primary tool that I use with my clients. The goal of creating this Mind Map is for you to look at where you are right now, to know what are you thinking, what are you feeling, what actions are you taking and what are the results.

And then to look forward and consider what you want to think, what you want to feel, what results you want to see, and what actions you need to take to get there. I have found in working with people that once you can identify where you want to go, it’s easier to identify obstacles and chart a course to get past them. I use my Mind Map as my primary tool for working with clients.

Another tool that I use is journaling. I do journal-based coaching, and the reason that I do that is that I know how powerful putting pen to paper and journaling can be when you are trying to understand your emotions. It also helps when you’re trying to figure out what thoughts you’re having and how they all relate together to whatever you’re experiencing right now.

Journaling is such a powerful tool for that. And I know that introverts and highly sensitive people tend to be very reflective, deep feelers, and deep thinkers. One of the best ways to go deep is with journaling. Give yourself that time and space to reflect, think deeply, ask all the questions, and go down all the rabbit trails. Those are some of the tools that I use that are really helpful with coaching.

They’re going to be helpful no matter who you are and what your personality is. But specifically for those ladies who are out there and like to think deeply and reflect on things. Journaling is a great tool for that, which is why it’s one of the main tools that I use in coaching.

Coaching Provides Accountability

The third way that working with a coach is going to help you find peace and manage your emotions is accountability. As your coach, I am here to help you stick to your goals and stick to your plans. I don’t come with my own agenda. I don’t come with my own predetermined goals, plans, and checklist for you to do. I am here to help you stick to what you have said you want for yourself.

Again, we use that mind map tool for this. When I’m working with a client and they get a little frustrated or start to feel stuck, we just go back to the mind map. Back to what you said you wanted. We talk about what changes you might need to make. How I can support you in getting back to your plan and sticking to the plan that you said you wanted? Sometimes it ends up being that you need a new plan.

So I work with my clients as a support person and help them create a new plan. I do that with homework assignments. Not so much “you have to do this to be successful.” I will give you coaching exercises and journaling prompts to get you thinking. I might make suggestions to you as my client of things you might want to try.

I also check in with you during our coaching relationship. I do a lot of my coaching via Voxer which allows me to quickly check in and see how you’re doing. Are you feeling stuck? How’s the homework going or do you have any questions? Is there anything that you need right now?

Help to Process Feelings + Form New Beliefs

The fourth way that mindset coaching is really helpful is because, as we work together, I am going to help you do two things: process your feelings and form new beliefs. I want to help you process your feelings and form new beliefs because a lot of my clients come to me and are so overwhelmed, their emotions feel so big and they don’t know what to do with them.

They feel like they’re going to blow up any moment. I get that. I’ve been there, and I want to help you begin to process your emotions. To learn what you’re actually feeling because feeling overwhelmed is usually something else.

Are you tired or hungry? Sleepy? What’s underneath that overwhelm? We work together to process your feelings, identify what they are, and understand how they’re showing up for you, and how they’re affecting you so that you can manage it.

Usually, what you’re feeling is 100% appropriate and it doesn’t need to change. But sometimes you don’t like the feeling, and we can talk about that and I can help you figure out a way to feel something different if that’s what’s going to serve you best. The same thing with forming new beliefs. What you believe influences how you feel and how you respond or react to everything. I

f you have a belief that somebody is out to get you, you are going to view your entire life, every circumstance, through the lens of that belief. When you can identify beliefs that are either flat-out wrong or they aren’t serving you well then I can work with you to figure out where they came from so that you can change them and begin to think truth and think something new and solidify a new belief.

Deep Meaningful Conversations

The fifth way that mindset coaching is really helpful especially if you are a highly sensitive, introvert, or any combination of that, is that as your coach we are going to have deep, meaningful conversations. This is not going to be shallow-level stuff.

In coaching, we have the opportunity to go super deep into your life, into your thoughts, and how you feel about what’s going on. We’re going to have these deep meaningful conversations about the things that matter to you.

You are the one who sets the agenda. You set the plan because you know what is important to you. What is the most pressing thing on your heart, on your mind, right now in your life, that is what we’re going to focus on. I am here to listen to what matters to you and I want to help you make changes and grow in the areas that matter to you.

I am a highly sensitive introvert so I know that we excel at those really deep, personal, one-on-one relationships and conversations.

I’m not good at small talk, but when it gets down to going deep and understanding your, story, journey, pain, and what’s going on that’s where I shine. I provide that for my clients because I know that it’s helpful and it’s something that you need.

You Set the Pace

The sixth way that working with a mindset coach is going to help is what I alluded to just a minute ago – you can go at your own pace as the client. You set the agenda. You come and say here’s what’s going into my life, here’s what I want to talk about, here’s where I want to go, and here’s what I want to do or change.

You can go as fast or as slow as you want to or need to. You can stop and take a break. I am just here to support you in that.

Now I will, from time to time, ask how the pace feels. If it feels too fast or slow. If you feel stuck, we may need to pick up the pace. You always have the final say, you always are in control and you get to decide how fast you want to go.

You decide how much you want to work on at one time. I might, as a good coach, reign you in so that you don’t get overwhelmed, but it is about you and your goals and your journey and how fast or how slow you want to go.

I’m a Highly Sensitive Introvert Too!

The final way that I want to share with you today about how mindset coaching, in general, is so helpful for learning how to deal with those big emotions, is that I get you. I am both introverted and highly sensitive. If you are an introvert, I get you. If you are a highly sensitive person, I get you.

If you’re like me and you’re like doubly blessed, I get you. I understand what it means and what it feels like to be an introvert and to be highly sensitive. To be that quiet person who likes to be alone and needs to have solitude.

Who feels things deeply. Not only my feelings but everybody else’s feelings around me. I understand all of those things. I’ve lived it. I am living it. I have researched it and continue learning about it all the time. You are not coming to somebody who’s expecting you to act in a way that is not true to who God created you to be.

7 Ways Working with a Mindset Coach Can Help Highly Sensitive Introverts Find Peace