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Inside: How setting goals the biblical way can help you achieve a true transformation!
I did something a little radical …
I gave up my need to control all the things!
Sounds a little crazy right?
I get so many emails from ladies trying to figure out how to manage a hundred different things when they walk through a crisis.
Here’s what I’ve learned: The only way to manage all the things that are going right and wrong in your life is to let it all go!
Yep, you heard me right. Let it go.
Sing the song if you need to.
Did your flesh just cringe or scream a little? When I first decided that I wanted to be less of a control freak everything in me screamed HECK NO GIRL!
- Maybe it comes from growing up with an alcoholic father and all the instability that creates in a child’s life.
- Maybe it’s because I was given very little control or say in my life growing up
- Or maybe it because I went through being abused and stripped of all my human rights that I have this overwhelming need to feel like I am in control
- Maybe being in control is just my way of trying to deal with this thing called life.
Whatever the reason the truth was that I needed to make a change. My desire and drive to be in control of all things, at all times were killing me.
I had taken on a burden way too heavy for me and in the process, I was just making things worse.
I spent years telling God how to do His job. How He needed to answer my prayers in the exact way that I wanted and on my timetable.
God, I need your help. But if you could just do it my way that would be great. Thanks.
See, I told you that I had a serious problem. I needed to let it go if I was going to have peace and joy in my life. But wasn’t sure how …
Maybe you are not a recovering perfectionist and control freak like I am. Maybe you struggle with watching too much TV or eating too many cookies once the kids go to bed.
Or maybe you have some really big decisions to make and you aren’t sure where to start.
Wouldn’t it be nice if there was a way we could be sure that we were making the right choices? A step-by-step process that we could go through any time that we wanted to accomplish something.
Actually, there is!
The Bible is the tool that will help us set godly goals and make wise decisions if we know where to look.
Digging into the word is what helped me overcome my struggling with not trusting and surrendering to God when I knew I needed to. My Bible helped me set that goal and meet it!
5 Steps to Setting Goals for True Lasting Change
Learning to trust God to take care of anything that was going on in my life was the goal.
That sounds super Christian, a no-brainer but it was very hard for me to let go. It’s in my nature to fix things that aren’t going the way I want them to. It’s so hard for me to sit on my hands.
But I was determined to overcome this obstacle in my life so I sat down to make a plan!
Step #1: I sat down and searched my heart to figure out what my goals were. I need to know what I wanted:
- more peace
- less stress
- more clarity
- to be in God’s will
- a closer relationship with God
I just made a list of everything that was in my heart. Anything that I wanted to do. Learning to let go was just one thing on that list.
Step #2: I took my list to God and asked Him what He thought of my list. I had a few things that really jumped out at me to work on but I wanted to make sure that I was working on the thing that God wanted me to work on. (This is how I landed on my control issues)
Step #3: I made a list of all the things that I felt I needed to do in order to meet that goal. Some people like to create vision boards. I’m more a word person than graphics so I just sat down and thought about what I wanted my life to look like by the end of the year and wrote it down.
Step #4: I wrote down some good things that I felt would happen once I was able to let go of my need for control. I found these things in Bible. Anytime that I found a promise that related to learning surrender to God and trust Him completely I made a note of it.
I kept all these things in my journal so I could pull it out and look it over when I had a rough day.
Step #5: I began to walk out this plan that I created. One day at a time, I worked my way toward letting go and letting God lead.
What do you think? Does that sound manageable?
I know that this process might seem super Christiany (I think I made that word up) but it is really easy and doable.
Are you ready for your breakthrough this year?
Setting goals that were manageable and in line with scripture was always a struggle for me. Honestly, if it weren’t for the process I learned in Arabah Joy’s Biblical Goal Setting course I would likely still be stuck in bad habits like eating too many cookies and always wanting to be in control of everything.
I was stuck in some destructive patterns and couldn’t see a way out.
I used to have these grand goals and plans and then never get around to them. You know, because I would try the first day and then feel overwhelmed and give up.
Or I would get so caught up in the planning process that I never put anything into action.
I figured that there was no hope for me. I couldn’t change it’s just how I am.
Arabah Joy helped me see how easy it is to not only set goals but to grow spiritually and really see some true change in my life with the help of Grace Goals.
If it weren’t for the breakthrough in my faith … I could never have accomplished as much as I have in the past few years.
There’s no way that I would have control over my temper instead of being controlled by it. Or that I would be able to work, homeschool and care for my children without losing my mind.
And I definitely would not be spending consistent time in prayer and Bible study every day if I had developed some good habits and worked hard towards change.
I learned the hard way … I made a bunch of mistakes trying to do things my way instead of inviting God into the process.
You don’t have to struggle like I did! You can skip right to the most effective way to set goals and see positive change.
Arabah Joy has a bundle called Grace Goals: A Revolutionary Way to Set Goals and Achieve Change. It teaches you step-by-step how to set goals and actually see it through to the change you desire.
If you are tired of life as usual and you are truly ready to see a transformation in your life, grab a copy of this bundle right now! Yes, it’s that good!
Block off some time each day for a week to work through the process and great your plan of attack.
Here’s a sneak peek of what’s covered in the bundle:
- Learn why grace is the enablement you need
- Begin to recognize and appropriate grace in your daily life
- Set practical, godly goals
- Be confident of God’s favor and power in your endeavors
- Develop a doable, personal plan for change
- The comprehensive 48-page workbook with 5 mini workshops
- Printables for each of the workshops to guide you and help you implement what you learned from the workshop
Arabah Joy made it possible for me to lay a spiritual foundation for the goals that I wanted to accomplish in every area of my life. Inviting God into the process gave me the strength and determination to see it through all the way.
It’s so hard for me to imagine what my life would be like if I had never taken the time to work through this system. I would be a hot mess if I hadn’t made the changes that I did.
Don’t miss out on the chance to experience true transformation and growth in your life this year. Get your copy of Grace Goals today !
Inside: Getting your priorities straight is important for all parts of your life. Most importantly your spiritual growth.
I recently did a little soul searching in an effort to clear out some emotional junk and unnecessary stress.
I’d grown weary of chasing stuff, trying to make things work in my own might and effort. Something was missing but I was having a hard time putting my finger on it.
One day while reading my Bible I found the answer:
Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need. Matthew 6:33 NLT
I realized that day was that I was not seeking the Kingdom of God above all else. That was a hard pill for me to swallow:
- The rule follower in me doesn’t like it when I get it wrong.
- The good girl in me wants to be perfect.
- The Holy Spirit in me convicted me of my selfish thoughts!
I was saying with my mouth that I wanted to live a life obedient to God’s word but there were some areas of my life that I wasn’t walking that out.
Our job as daughters of the King is to seek the kingdom and live righteously. God promise is that when we do He will take care of everything else.
Sounds easy right?
I thought so too.
The truth is that seeking the kingdom means saying no a lot. No to myself, no to the world. No to the things that I think are good for me. Things that I want.
That’s hard. But with determination, it can be done!
Make a commitment to make God your #1 priority no matter what. To crave Him, His word and knowing Him more than anything else.
Because God promises that if I do, He’ll give you the desires of my heart.
How could you say no to that?
How to Practically Seek the Kingdom of God with Priorities
What are your priorities?
If you’re anything like me you have a ton of things on your plate. You probably have more than one plate, LOL! There are so many things that we have to get done each day. Families that we need to take care of, work to do, people to serve.
How can we do all of that and make sure that we are giving God His proper place in our lives?
That’s the same question Martha asked of Jesus when she was doing all the work preparing for guests and her sister Mary was just sitting around doing nothing. Well, she wasn’t doing nothing.
As Jesus and the disciples continued on their way to Jerusalem, they came to a certain village where a woman named Martha welcomed him into her home. Her sister, Mary, sat at the Lord’s feet, listening to what he taught. But Martha was distracted by the big dinner she was preparing. She came to Jesus and said, “Lord, doesn’t it seem unfair to you that my sister just sits here while I do all the work? Tell her to come and help me.”
But the Lord said to her, “My dear Martha, you are worried and upset over all these details! There is only one thing worth being concerned about. Mary has discovered it, and it will not be taken away from her.” Luke 10:38-42 NLT
Mary had her priorities right. Martha was focused on the wrong thing in that moment.
Don’t misunderstand! It’s not wrong to take care of your family and invite people to your home. It is wrong to be so focused on those things that we forget to make time for God.
- The dishes can wait for 5 minutes if it that’s all the time you have to read your Bible.
- Your children can entertain themselves or watch TV while you take a few minutes to pray over your day.
- Your guests can eat a meal you pick up from the grocery store if it means you have time to pray and allow God to give you a hospitable attitude before they arrive.
Seriously! There’s nothing worse than going to someone’s house and they spend the entire time in a bad mood because they are exhausted from cleaning.
You just have to put your priorities in their proper place. And then create a schedule that works around them.
Creating a Schedule that Reflects Your Priorities
Having a schedule/routine in place that works for you will give you the freedom you need to get the things done that need to be done, with a good attitude and room for rest and margin.
It’s pretty easy to create a schedule or a routine:
- Make a list of all your roles
- Write down all the tasks that go with those roles
- Sort out the tasks that must be done and the ones that do not (these are your priorities)
- Spend a week keeping track of your time. You can use a time evaluation form
- Create a schedule that actually works