We all know that quiet time is something that needs to happen if we are going to grow spiritually. But often we aren’t sure what we need to include. Our hearts desperately want to grow closer to God but our heads aren’t sure what that needs to look like.
Do I need to always pray on my knees?
Is there only one Bible translation that’s okay to read?
What’s the right length of time for my daily devotions?
What is the right way to do devotions?
This is undoubtedly the number one question/frustration that I get from readers and other moms. This question comes in different forms. “I was always this, but I feel more comfortable doing that.” Or, “I’m not really sure how to study my Bible because I tried the ABC method and it didn’t work for me, so now I’m not sure what the right thing to do is.”
What Does “Quiet Time” Even Mean?
Before we go any further, let’s take a moment to talk about what “quiet time” is. If you’re a mom, maybe quiet time means your kids are away from you for a little while so that everybody can rest and reset for the day.
But when I say quiet time, I’m talking about daily devotions, or a time every day that you’re going to spend with God for spiritual growth. That usually includes some form of Bible reading or Bible study and prayer. It can include other things too, but those are the two that I tend to focus on.
What if I Can’t Pray on my Knees?
The simple answer to “what is the right way to do daily devotions” is whatever works for you. There is no one way to do your Bible study. There is no one way to read your Bible. There is no one way to pray.
I can understand the frustration because when I was growing up I only saw people pray in a certain way. When I went to church, the people were on their knees, they were speaking in tongues, they were singing and groaning and moaning, and that’s how they were praying. At home, my own mom prayed in a very similar way.
As a matter of fact, she still does. She would get up super early in the morning and I would hear her walking around the house and she would be talking to God and praying that way and to me, it almost sounded like a hymn. So for the longest time, I thought that was the only way to pray.
As I got older, I had some problems with that. If I tried to be on my knees to pray, I would fall asleep. To be 100% honest with you, I still fall asleep if I try to pray that way. But I had in my mind that it was the only way because it was what I saw. We all tend to copy what we see other people around us doing, and that’s great. There’s nothing necessarily wrong with that.
But sometimes it just doesn’t work for us, and there’s no need to feel guilty or feel bad just because “I can’t pray the way my pastor prays”, or “I can’t pray the way my mom/spiritual mentor prays.”
That doesn’t mean that you’re doing it wrong.
It’s the same with Bible study. When I was growing up, my church and my mom used the King James Bible. As a matter of fact, my mom still uses it. As a kid, she bought me a King James Precious Moments Bible. She actually still has that Bible.
But I can not read the King James Bible. It doesn’t make sense to me. I get hung up on all the “thee’s, thou’s, ‘eths” etc. That language isn’t how we speak so it’s hard for me to read it. So what happened is that for the longest time, I hated reading my Bible. So I didn’t read it.
That is until I was in middle school and someone gifted me a student Bible and it was the NIV (New International Version), and I thought, “Oh my goodness! I can understand this! I can read this. I’m not stumbling over the words.” I didn’t feel like I wasn’t smart enough to understand the Bible.
That really opened up a way for me to enjoy reading my Bible. I was able to start studying it and those kinds of things.I share all of that just to say it again, there is no right way to study. There is no right way to pray.
If you are driving to work in the morning, you obviously can’t be on your knees with your face on the ground and pray, because you would crash. You can pray however it works for you. You can walk around and pray. You can journal and pray. You can sing songs as prayer. You can pray a prayer that somebody else has written. You can pray the Scriptures. You can make up your own prayers. It doesn’t matter.
God is not hung up on the mechanics and things about how you are approaching Him and how you are seeking Him and trying to get to know Him. He just wants you to spend time with Him. That’s it.
If you just say, “God, I have no idea what I’m doing or what You want me to do. But I am here.”
He is going to teach you. He is going to honor that and see where your heart is. And then little by little, He will begin to show you the way He created you to worship Him. He is a creative God! Look at all the different animals and things that we have in the world today. He is creative.
And just as He is creative with the different birds and animals on our planet, He was just as creative when He made each of us. We are all created to worship God and get to know Him in a unique way.
Just remember, every season of life is going to be different. When you have a house full of young children, you probably don’t have time to dig into a Beth Moore study. I love her and she’s awesome, but when I had toddlers and preschoolers and babies, I didn’t have time for that. It took too much of my time.
Now would it make sense for me to say that since I can’t do Beth Moore, I’m just not going to study anything? No!
Every season is different, so figure out what is going to work for you right now and stick to it. That’s how to be consistent; not in trying to copy what you see around you. If all you have is 5 minutes in the morning while you’re hiding in the bathroom from your kids to pray and talk to God, then go for it. He will honor that. He will meet you there.
Resources for your Quiet Time